in my 50s

April 12, 2010

In my 50s, I have become “dumpy”. I am not happy with this. It is time to take charge of a number of things in my life, weight being one of them.

I have made a few decisions, one of which is to take charge of our finances. We are creating a savings for the 1st time in our lives, we are paying down our debt, even though the Parent Loans are unimaginable in size, and we are making progress. I can do the same with weight.

For most of my life, I have turned heads with my looks. Part of me is quite happy and satisfied turned “dumpi-er” in my 50s. I am happy with myself. But I am not comfortable being this weight, which is about 175 lbs. and 5’4″. For most of my life at the same height, I’ve been more like 135-155. Suddenly, I’m at this size. Guess what I’m saying is, I’d feel better if I wasn’t.

Health becomes a concern in your mid-50s. Heart, cholesterol, sugar-levels, all that good stuff. I’ve never had a concern health-wise. Suddenly, it’s feeling like if I don’t start fighting this fight now, it’s all down hill from here. My body is refusing menopause but I don’t have to be this weight. That is up to me. A lot of it comes from sitting at a desk and a computer ALL DAY LONG every single day! I have to control what I eat, and go walking regularly, for a lot longer than I have been.

growing up fishing

April 10, 2010

As I watch Sam go by across the pond, outside my window, I think, “What in the WORLD would Sam do if his parents moved him away from here?” He’s been outside all day, fishing. Just now he walked by, wading in the pond near the bank, with another friend. He’s about 4th grade age. Spring break week, he has been out there all day every day. He is there more than he is home. Parents here just let their kids wander. There is no fear for their safety. What a dreamy place to raise a child. We are a neighborhood with many houses, with pond and swimming pool, out away from the small town city limits, close to the big lake. It is its own community. Though something could happen, nothing does happen, to kids out here. People know their neighbors as well. They even own the STREETS! The neighborhood association OWNS the streets and takes care of repair of them– not the city. If someone tries to speed through from one side to the other and doesn’t live here — they can BAN THEM! It’s nice for safety. And it is also very insulated and excluded from the world. There are some African Americans here but few. People ride around in their golf carts on a sunny Spring Saturday. It’s a lazy, comfortable place to live.

Purple trees with low-hanging blooms have exploded open in the last week. I don’t know what they are, they look like giant lilac trees. Azaleas also exploded open on my campus and around town in the past week — dark bright pinks, lighter pinks, & white.

hidden words no.38-39

April 9, 2010

the next two Hidden Words are:

38. O SON OF BEING!
Walk in My statutes for love of Me and deny thyself that which thou desirest if thou seekest My pleasure.

39. O SON OF MAN!
Neglect not My commandments if thou lovest My beauty, and forget not My counsels if thou wouldst attain My good pleasure.

 (Baha’u’llah, The Arabic Hidden Words)

pollen

April 7, 2010

Okay now I’ve seen it. We get up in the morning, there is a thin film of yellow dirt all over our cars. It is everywhere. You drive past pine forest and there is literally a yellowish “haze” covering the air. Yellow cones dot the pine trees like polka dot shirts. You get in your car and can’t see out, so you turn on the washer fluid, and create yellow MUD! In the streets, near the curb, you notice this yellowish dirt making lines on the road. It is amazing. Luckily, I don’t have the allergies. It doesn’t affect my ability to breathe.

grandkids

April 6, 2010

There is nothing like being with grandkids and my kids. It makes life worthwhile. Spent a happy weekend up north. Al’s family always has a big easter egg hunt for the kids. They have a lot of cousins and 2nd cousins.

Saw a few good friends as well. Saw a couple bad accidents both on the way up, and on the way back south. If I get stuck in traffic, I always thank God it is not me in that accident stopping traffic, and things are not so bad. One car was absolutely flattened and had knocked down about 100′ of guard rail, then evidently smashed into the mountainside cliff on the side of the road. Maybe they rolled the car, because it was smashed. Probably a fatality or close to it.

Saw stars when driving thru the mountains with no city lights nearby, that I haven’t seen in a long time. Breath-taking view.

Got back to the south and all the purple flowering trees have burst into  bloom everywhere. Gorgeous weather, sunny and in the 80s. Got back at midnight, got to campus this morning by 8:30 & my teaching is already done for the day. Now just grading and catching up. All is well.

     

easter eggs and Jesus

April 1, 2010

We are going home to Indiana this weekend, Easter weekend, because I get a 4-day weekend off (Christian Lutheran college).  I really can’t take this drive every 2 mos. and our pocketbook can’t either. But my husband always wants to go – his parents are older & having health problems. And I want to see Raven & Caspian (as well as my daughter). But it’s a hard, hard trip and I hate it. I really hate it.

Thoughts about Easter. Memories of Easter holidays. Dressing up like a doll, always in a new dress, going to church with a little purse I would carry and sometimes white gloves. Often had a dress to match my sister’s but a little different color, something like that. Such foll-de-roll. The whole church dress up thing for Easter, so fakey. Curling my light brown hair with bobby pins the night before.

We would wake up to a basket with candy and toys as a kid. In my pre-youth years, I always wanted the same exact thing (and always got it). A large, chocolate Easter egg with coconut cream filling. Dark chocolate if possible. That was my favorite, once-a-year thing. It would last for weeks or months afterward, as I would take a little bite each day, to make it last a long time!! So gross! It would be sitting in my room on a desk all that time.

We would have one of those huge dinners, with turkey or ham, or both, and all the extra dishes of food, homemade, all of it. Rolls, mac  & cheese, green beans, mashed potatoes, 3 kinds of pie, creamy corn. It was always a big family dinner day.

My dad, if he went to church any time of year to please my mom, would go on Christmas and Easter. My connection to church was always strong, although I wrote at age 15 that I did not believe people in India were going to hell. As a kid I attended Sunday school regularly, but from my memories of it, the friends there were a slightly different group than those I hung with at school, even in elementary. The kids at my church were the rich kids in town. At school, I hung out with all different classes of kids. Some of my best friends were known as “the poor kids” but the way I knew them was Girl Scouts, for one, and recess, for two. We would walk home together until we had to separate to go to our own houses.

To this day, I love coloring Easter eggs and do it w/ my grandkids. It is just plain fun. I always loved colors in paints, crayons, and Easter eggs. I often drew a white wax “Jesus cross” on the egg before coloring it. Spirituality was always a part of me. However, I always liked Palm Sunday and the love of the people for Jesus more than the whole Easter story. I understand the story of sacrifice, and believe Jesus died on the cross. But it doesn’t matter to me whether or not He rose from the dead. This is the entire basis for Christian belief, we are told by many — He died “for our sins”. But wasn’t His power and Who He was built on the fact that He changed people’s lives, taught them to love one another and to treat others as you would like to be treated? People left their fishing nets and followed Him. He preached the sermon on the mount and changed how we see the world and each other. That is the power of Christ.

So let’s say He rose from the tomb after 3 days. Okay, then everyone sees Him and believes in Him because of one miracle He did? He rose other people from the dead, so He could do it for Himself if He wanted to. But then what?? The Bible stories say his body went straight up into the sky and heaven. From what we now know of space, this seems very silly. It just doesn’t make any sense. Belief has to also jive with science somehow. Not make fun of science as this does.

A talk from ‘Abdu’l-Baha  explains that perhaps after the crucifixion, the disciples lost faith. Their Lord had been crucified! How could this happen? Wasn’t He the Promised One to lead them into the Kingdom? Wasn’t He to be the new king? So they lost their faith. After 3 days, Mary Magdelene regained her faith in her Lord and encouraged the others. She revitalized their belief, reminded them of all the teachings He brought to the world, and they regained their confidence and belief. This makes more sense to me than the other way.

Sacrifice is the ultimate lesson. But I just can’t buy the story of his body leaving earth and catapulting into the sky! It just makes no sense to me. I think God is greater than that, and actually JESUS is greater than that! He changed the world and it was never the same. He consorted with prostitutes and tax collectors and made them once again whole. This is what the spirit does for people. He is not Christ because of one miracle, or rising His own body from the dead. He is Christ because of how people were changed due to His short existence with us. 

Twilight/New Moon

March 25, 2010
I just watched the “New Moon” & watched Twilight about a week ago. So now I’ve seen the 2 new vampire movies young girls are going gaga over. The interesting thing about them is they are chock full of imagery and symbolism. Same with Avatar, it’s interesting to see & think about why people go nuts over these images.
 
Twilight movies – girls falls in love with a vampire. Vampire also loves girl. They are both 17-18 and in high school.  He tells her he can “never lose control” with her or he will drink her blood and “go too far” — if he starts but stops in time, then she’s a vampire like him. But her blood “sends him into a frenzy”. If he drinks too much blood, then she dies. The whole entire movie he is attracted to her like a magnet but has to stop his own sexual impulses or he’ll drink her dry &  she will die……… This kid is 109 yrs old and has been going to high school all that time. I think I’d find a way to kill myself.
 
There is a rival who also falls in love w/ the same girl. The rival discovers he is a werewolf during the movie. Turns into a wolf when he gets angry!! If she stays with him, then she can never make him angry, or he may lash out at her with his wolf paw and injure her……… hmm……. hit her and be sorry later. Gee what a symbolic theme. (I’ve taught about domestic violence already this semester.)
There is another woman in the film who is a lover of a different vampire & she walks around with a big claw scratch scar on 1/2 her face, from when he “lost his temper” one time. I think the imagery here is disturing toward women.
 
then there is this whole Native American theme, as the wolves also just happen to be Indian & go to the reservation school. Great. The one black guy in the film –really good looking with long dreads and an accent — was a “bad vampire” who wants to kill the human girl everyone else loves. He dies at the hand of the wolves.
There is tons of gender/race imagery in here but this is a very, very short example. End of the movie: She is wanting to be turned into a vampire to live with him forever, and asks him to be “the one to do it” to her. He asks her to marry him. If they do this, then she loses her eternal SOUL, because vampires are eternally cursed for some reason or another (not explained), and the “truce” between wolves and vampires will be officially called off. (Woman causing a war because of 2 men fighting over her — another familiar theme).  “To Be Continued . . .” The Edward character is very sexy. But the story is FULL of debilitating messages for non-white racial groups and women. Edward is so white he looks like he has powder on during the entire film. He wins the girl’s heart. The Indian werewolf kid, Jacob, runs off into the woods but the girl loves him “as a friend”.

walking

March 24, 2010

To get back to an earlier post about walking for exercise, I did start walking again. But then it started raining, and it seems every time I think of walking, it is sprinkling or raining.

Just this morning, it is clearing and the sun is rising over the pond. It is going to be a beautiful day. The mist that forms and moves across the pond is happening, which means the weather is changing.

I realize that a change in my thinking is what is needed. I’ve had this vague notion in my mind about walking (when I have time). The truth is, my body is changing, and will continue to change, and nothing is going to change for the better, at this age! So I either start fighting it, regularly and consistently, or it’s all downhill from here at a much faster rate than what I want.

I have to walk to save my life. Not “when I have time” which is never. It has to be a regular pattern to my day, and I have to think of it in terms of saving my life. Maybe saving my body, to the extent possible. Spring in the south is the best time to realize this. I can walk every day, or at least 5X/week. It has to be a necessary part of my day, just like lunch after the fast is over!  🙂

naw-ruz

March 21, 2010

Today is the 1st day of the year — the Baha’i Faith new year. March 21st, the Spring equinox. Today was pretty much a lazy-stay-at-home-in-the-rain day for us, though we went to a dinner last night and heard some fantastic Persian violin and guitar music. Lovely. It is interesting to hear quarter notes from a violin.

One thought struck me last night: Our Center was full to the brim, with about 45 adults and 10 kids running around. So– what happens when we double in size? The planning and love that all went into building these Baha’i Centers— no matter how lovely— seems now misplaced. We do want to grow, do we not? So what then? It’s like we have carved out a certain niche for ourselves that does not expand. It just doesn’t make sense. We need to cut our ties to these buildings and expand our vision into the future, and be about serving humanity and forging relationships!

When our kids were little, Naw-Ruz was a day we took our kids out of school and went out to lunch together as a family. I miss all my kids today. I miss those special times.

So in case you want to know, today begins the year 167 B.E. (Baha’i era) — not that most of the world knows or cares right now. Think of where the world was 167 years after Christ. It takes work and centuries of time. Someday the world will celebrate this holiday.

haven’t posted any of these for awhile: HW

March 20, 2010

more Hidden Words of Baha’u’llah: nos. 34-37

34. O SON OF SPIRIT!
The spirit of holiness beareth unto thee the joyful tidings of reunion; wherefore dost thou grieve? The spirit of power confirmeth thee in His cause; why dost thou veil thyself? The light of His countenance doth lead thee; how canst thou go astray?

35. O SON OF MAN!
Sorrow not save that thou art far from Us. Rejoice not save that thou art drawing near and returning unto Us.

36. O SON OF MAN!
Rejoice in the gladness of thine heart, that thou mayest be worthy to meet Me and to mirror forth My beauty.

37. O SON OF MAN!
Divest not thyself of My beauteous robe, and forfeit not thy portion from My wondrous fountain, lest thou shouldst thirst for evermore.